My name is Sara and I am finally a senior this year! The past three years have gone by so fast that it seems like yesterday I was laying in my bed the night before my first day of high school. There have been great parts of high school and things I just wish I could forget.
Life is funny. You always hear people say, “Things happen for a reason and it all happened to make you a better person” and all I have to say is I learned this first hand. Have you ever thought you had your whole life planned out with someone, and to only turn around and the whole plan be torn away from you? I have.
In middle school, you would think I was crazy but I felt like I had found my one true love. No not Brad Pitt. His name was Brant and he was a lot like me, as in being carefree and somewhat of a class clown. I had an amazing time in middle school and was with Brant for about eighty percent of it. I had a lot of my firsts with Brant, and was finally able to go to his house and him to mine by the end of our 8th grade year.
Finally, in my first year of high school and things were going great! This was also the year that I doubted that Brant and I were soul mates. I got to wondering, do I never want to have that first kiss feeling ever again? So I decided to break up with him and date another guy named Damien. This only lasted about three days before I realized, I didn’t want him, I wanted to be with Brant. So after we started to go back out, he decided that he wanted to experience being with someone else like I did. That also didn’t last long, we got back together in a couple weeks. After that it seemed like it was going to be happily ever after for Brant and I.
Brant and I had our ups and downs over the next couple of years but overall we were the sweethearts of our school. No one thought of just Sara or just Brant. It was always Sara and Brant. I never planned on what college I was going to go to because I was going to go wherever Brant went. I stopped hanging out with my friends, because I always wanted to be with Brant, he was my best friend.
It was our junior year and things were going great! Brant and I had celebrated our three anniversary in November and things could only get better, right? No, not right, very wrong! Brant broke up with me about a week after Valentine’s day. I was devastated, but there was no way Brant and I could be over, I mean Brant was my best friend and my Prince Charming that I was suppose to be with for the rest of my life.
That was one of the hardest weeks I have ever went through. I cried a lot, and ended up losing a lot of weight. I went to school and cried just about everyday I was there. I always felt like I had this big light shining down on me and a big stamp on my face that said,"I got dumped" and I was what everyone was talking about. Only to find out, that Brant had started to see another girl not even a week after we broke up. I couldn’t believe it. I got really depressed and I couldn’t seem to get out of this rut. Why was he doing this to me? Didn’t he even care about my feelings? This is when I realized, I had isolated myself from my true dreams and all my friends. I sat at home a lot of the time after that because I had lost contact with my friends.
Things slowly began to change over the next couple of months. I put myself out there after awhile, I hung out with people that I hadn’t even really talked to since middle school. I started to look at life as a book that I had to write myself. I did things I wanted to do, I didn’t do things to make other people happy, I did things that would make me happy. I focused on my school work and looked at different colleges. I dated a little bit but I haven’t found anyone that I feel like I really want to be with. I am really just enjoying life with my friends for my senior year, because truth be told, I may never see some of them once the school year ends.
Brant really hurt me but all I have to say to him is, “Thanks.” You may seem to think that saying thanks to a guy that broke your heart would be weird, but if it wasn’t for him breaking up with me I wouldn’t have learned the greatest lesson of all. Be who you want be, don’t let anyone think that they know what is best for you, do things for you, and don’t be afraid to get your heart broken because as much as it hurts at the time, things always happen for a reason. Sometimes in order to be happy you have to have a life alternating event happen, no matter how bad it is.
A lot of things have changed since last February, but I am happy now, and I plan on attending Northwood University in the fall, and I am excited to meet new people and start the next chapter of my book. I am going to miss all my friends from high school and even all of the great times I had with Brant. Brant is still dating that girl, but we are slowly becoming friends again. But I learned that no guy can even compare to my friends and they will always come first to me.
I wrote this for all the girls and guys out there who have their heart broken and feel like life won’t go on. I am hear to tell you that life will go on and you won’t feel the hurt forever, just take the time you need to dwell and then put yourself back out there. For you people who haven’t went through this, just remember no matter how great your boyfriend or girlfriend is, they can never compare to the greatest relationship of all, friendship. I want people to read this and really learn something from it. I want to make a difference in the world and if telling of my heartache would help one person, I would be so happy! My story really does prove the saying , “Things happen for a reason and it all happened to make you a better person.” I know this because I know I am a better person now just because of what I went through. So take my advice, and start writing your life book.Then spread the word, and just try to reach out and help others.