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x3 amore perpetuo
#1 Posted : Monday, January 22, 2007 3:56:27 PM(UTC)
x3 amore perpetuo

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Hey, i'm a junior in high school, beginning to feel the pressure. i'm having a hard time balancing my social life with school, i have around an 85 / 86 average and i'm taking a heavy course load [Advanced Placement American/College Political Science/College Web Design/Honors English/Honors Latin/Physics/Math]...i'm just trying to balance everything and its not working out so well, i put my friends ahead of everything because they've helped me through the rough and the tough...2 horrible relationships [beginning to think guys are hopeless];;tough parents;;etc... so they're my life but they're pressuring me to stay in New York for college because NYC is where my life is at...raised in Queens i'm a city girl who dreams of college in boston, but how do i leave my life behind? help anyone?
^^that jumped around alot, many issues, w/e you want to comment on i'm open to ANYTHING!!
<3 Nadia
imaspektator
#2 Posted : Tuesday, March 20, 2007 2:11:04 PM(UTC)
imaspektator

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Joined: 3/20/2007(UTC)
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Nadia,

It sounds like you are having a hard time getting your priorities in order. I don't mean to sound rude, but if you have your life planned in Boston, don't you think that you should be spending less time with your friends and working harder on your studies? I know it can be difficult juggling a social, home, and school life in the balance.

Here is where I use Mr. Covey's (in my opinion) best advice on becoming a successful teenager: Begin with the end in mind. Although your friends and new/old boyfriends are in your head right now, you have to look around you and think about what you are doing that is going to effect your future. Its a sad fact, but most friends and beaus in high school don't last past your senior year.

What I suggest you do is make a list of things that are major parts of your life. Then next to them, make a score (from either 1-5 or 1-10) on how important they are to your future. If college is what you are most concerned with, you may choose to score your studies harder. This may help you with figuring out what would be best to put first.

About the relationships: Sadly, most high school boys are very stupid when it comes to relationships. They mature later than girls and have different ideas of what a relationship should be. Its best not to make a huge deal about a guy unless he has been a friend for longer.

About the parents: I have suffered a very complicated relationship with my parents my whole life. Since I don't know your situation, I can't really tell you what to do. All I can hope to say is that they are your parents is that whether they intend to hurt your feelings or not, they are your parents and intend the best for you (usually.) Try talking to them by telling them first of your feelings and then WHY you are feeling that way, not the other way around. (If you start telling them what they are doing wrong first, they tend to lose attention. But if you start off with you saying "I have been stressed lately..." they may be more inclined to listen).

Best of luck, and feel free to email anytime if you need someone to talk to.

-Lindsay.




jesseswow
#3 Posted : Sunday, April 01, 2007 1:53:48 PM(UTC)
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Joined: 10/15/2006(UTC)
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I do not believe that all guys are hopeless
apcaz
#4 Posted : Sunday, April 01, 2007 6:55:31 PM(UTC)
apcaz

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your friends will definately understand your hopes and dreams and will be very supportive-some of them may even want to go with you!! if you have a real passion for going somewhere don't let anything get in your way. it's easier to ask for forgiveness from a person than to try and forget a regret. i dream of going to london for college, my parents want me to go the university that my mom works for. my friends are all aware of my decision and are sad that i'm leaving but excited to visit and i sat my parents down and i told them that this was something that i'm was going to do and that i hope they would understand that. don't ever consider giving up your dreams-your sanity and happiness should come before all else on your priority list. but that said their is nothing wrong with friends being above all else.
Devlona
#5 Posted : Friday, July 27, 2007 8:10:00 AM(UTC)
Devlona

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Joined: 7/25/2007(UTC)
Posts: 60

Hay things are tough and some guys really are hopeless, a life is hard to leave behind I know, I moved into the united states for Ireland, my home contry, I was a small town sheperdess, but then my parents moved me and my brother out here and well things haven't exactly been easy, sure it will be hard, but follow your heart, if your heart says to go, then go, if it says to stay, then stay, thats all it really boils down to. What are your friends going to do if you go? never talk to you again? If so then their not your friends, if they were your true friends then they would respect your dream and let you do what you want to do,even if that means going to Boston for schooling, they would still be your friends.

Okay on to the balancing act. One life is a balancing act, look at your parents or guardians for example; They get up, go to work, come home, cook, clean, and spend time with you right? well with getting up, you have to resist staying in bed, which at times is really hard, I know. With going to work, there are very few people anymore who like their jobs, so its more of torture to go to work espically if they work and depend on others to get something done, like a group project and your partner doesn't know the printer from the stapler that sort of thing, and then there is the boss saying that if your group doesn't get its project done at this time, then the whole group is fired, and all your waiting on to turn it in is that one person, who in turn is waiting for the pages to come out of the stapler. Coming home, that is usually the better unless you have a whiney spouse, or rotten kids then its the same as work, that whole thing is self explanitory. Cooking, I don't know about you but I hate it, I always burn it, even ceral, how I did that I don't know, it just happened honest!! Cleaning is also a pain in the neck, I mean its just that spot that won't come out of the carpet!!! its sooooo annoying!!! and then the relaxing part spending time with you, that is a joy for your parents or gaurdians. there for life will always be a balancing act, be greatful now because its so small of one, instead payign bills and such, and getting that 'oh god I don't have enough hours in at work I won't have enough for my bills!!' feeling.

about the guys thing, some guys are hopeless I find that the guys that are the quiet nerdy type are better for the relationship than anything else


good luck e-mail me for more suggestions plz!!

~~~~~~~~~~~~!Devlona!~~~~~~~~~~
So...we are all told in this world that we are on our own,....let me tell you something.....we're not alone....not anymore...we have each other.....
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